Naturally we include the obligatory autism reference to a piece of jigsaw puzzle!

Because obviously we're the forgotten about pieces of puzzle that go under the sofa yet without us, the jigsaw is incomplete.

Because you know, its a website about autism so there's got to be the obligatory jigsaw reference!

Tuesday, 2 April 2019

World Autism Awareness Week, again.

It's the start of World Autism Awareness Week again...
Here marks more garbage on social media about autism with jigsaw puzzle pieces, vaccinations, Applied Behaviour Analysis, our suffering and cures.

Many of us who live independent lives and "appear normal" have daily struggles that we mask to fit in, to get by. Get aware. Find out about autism first-hand.

Here's a pro-tip. Look on Twitter at #ActuallyAutistic where you can read the postings from autistic people. See their concerns, their joys and life experiences in how autism affects their lives. These are first-hand accounts from autistic people with the cognitive ability to engage on Twitter (although they may not all live independently). It's worth taking a look.

Did you know an agency in the UK government recently discriminated tens of thousands of autistic people with no warning? The DVLA recently then backtracked a decision on ruling autism (and ADHD) was a mental disorder. I had to fill an M1 form disclosing my imaginary drug/alcohol issues and never happened stays in mental hospitals. Failure meant my clean 17 year old driving licence revoked. Thankfully the autistic community lobbied well and the DVLA changed the rules where you must only disclose your autism diagnosis if it negatively impacts on the quality of your driving. Finally some sense.

This wouldn't have happened if those making the decision were aware of what autism actually is (and what it is not). Awareness comes from including autistic people's voices in the services we use rather than people speaking for us.
Don't assume you know what I need. Don't tell me what I need. You might be surprised about I need. Ask.

I'll help you out about workplace reasonable adjustments.
Look at my presentation I delivered at #Autscape, a conference about autism for autistic people:

I may expand on this last point in another entry.

Thursday, 1 February 2018

"People who suffer from autism..."

I don't want to get into any discussion on the correct language of addressing those that have/are autism/autistic. I personally identify as autistic and I feel it is a core part of my being but if other people 'fellow sufferers' like the 'with language', good for them.

What I want to look at is this idea of autism and suffering.

There's the view that autistic people suffer, often stated by parents with autistic children and others who work with autistic people. And yes, I tend to agree actually. There are times when I do suffer and it is not society's fault. There, I said it.

I see people from the autistic community (as if there is actually a formal association!) angrily counter that they do not 'suffer from autism'. The argument is that autism is not a disease and we don't have common observable symptoms as such, for there are infinite ways autism can manifest. 

The view here is that if suffering does occur, it's caused by society and the way it is structured to make life more difficult for autistic people than it should otherwise be. This might be the way society can be so sensory overloading and the way neurotypical people communicate that can isolate autistic people from joining in.

And here I say yes, society is not necessarily configured in ways that always work well for autistic people, but let's stop being naive about how autistic people experience the world and the extent to which society can reasonably accommodate us. Society cannot be blamed for everything and autism is not some special gift. Sometimes we suffer and there is no one to blame. 

Let's get real: I don't particularly like supermarkets. I don't like the lights so I suppose yes, the lights can be dimmed for me. I have seen attempts to make shopping more accommodating for people with sensory processing difficulties. My local shopping centre does a once a month low sensory shopping hour but I can't help but think there is no way to please everyone but I guess it might help a few people, so that is good, right? But it just doesn't go far enough for me but I realise to achieve that, it would be totally unworkable.

But there is the thing about supermarkets for me; I don't like the number of things to look at. Visually, shopping is overloading by the vast amount of people about and the huge number of different products to look at on the shelves with their bright colours and different shapes. So to accommodate my needs, turning down the lights and turning off the music isn't going to help me. The retailer isn't going to remove a load of their products to suit me and how would that benefit other people if what they need is removed from the shop floor?

What is the solution? I think we need to be realistic that society can only do so much to help us autistic people get on in life. There are going to be plenty of scenarios where society does not disable us but it is our environment but it transcends society's reach. So yes, I do suffer. I cannot make the birds stop tweeting, turn down the brightness of the sky or remove people around me. I cannot blame society for doing what they are doing and I cannot change my natural environment either. 

But I can find coping mechanisms. I can wear headphones, wear tinted lenses in my glasses and all sorts but we cannot blame society for this. 

Using the examples of shopping, we could turn back the commerce clock to small shops and buy goods each day and reduce choice and raise costs because perhaps 1 in a 100 people in the UK are autistic and a percentage of those people find shopping hard?! No, that's not going to work and therefore we need to understand that we do suffer.

We cannot deny who we are but I think we need to be honest in what we think the sources of suffering are. I for one don't want to stop being autistic but I do want the world to be quieter. If the medical world can one day help me with that, I won't feel shame to admit that suffering. Or admit that I want it to go. This isn't me being a sellout or rejecting who I am but recognising that society can't be blamed for everything. Sometimes the birds just tweet too loud, and wanting to feel it less is okay. 

Tuesday, 26 September 2017

'Autism-friendly' Northern Ireland town

So I stumbled on this news article about a town in Northern Ireland that is "autism-friendly":

My first reaction: What the hell?! 

My second reaction: Oooh, is this a town where meaningful workplace reasonable adjustments occur under the Disability Discrimination Act 1995 (The Equality Act 2010 doesn't apply in NI)!!

And....this is where all employees undertake mandatory outstandingly brilliant training on autism that is also personalised to the industry/department/team to support their autistic colleauges?!
I thought not.

So basically its going to be 'autism-friendly', aimed at holiday makers who are families and kids who can go enjoy a sensory garden. Whooopieee! It doesn't exactly offer much to adults who have no use for such a garden.

And some services are in place for autistic residents who can take advantage of supported-living centres and a day centre. 

Now, I don't want this post to look like I am knocking the charity's efforts as what they are doing is amazing and is significant in recognising the cognitive style and challenges faced by those with autism. 

However, I take issue with this "first town in NI" who is now autism-friendly. I don't believe any place can be truly friendly. Every autistic person has a unique combination of sensory concerns and other issues. There will be some who have acute difficulties and others who appear or are generally okay majority of the time.

I argue that the label is a dangerous self-congratulatory one that could inadvertently lead to the thinking that all we need to do is to have a garden, a few day centres and a couple of employment advisers and we have made everything in the town great for all autistic people.#

Lets be real: some difficulties can never be removed. The sound of birds, wind blowing on my face, cold temperatures and supermarkets that are visually busy because of all their stock on display. There are  triggers and problems that for some autistic people can never be eradicated. We cannot ghost town a town centre on a Friday afternoon to suit one person. We cannot remove stock in a Tesco for one person. There are so many accommodations that cannot be made as they are not reasonable. 
So whilst it is brilliant that there are people striving to make a town better for autistic residents and visitors, lets not get carried away and overstate the positive impact of their initiatives. I for one would never find any use for a sensory garden, a day centre or supported-living centres.

Do you know what would help me?! Easy to navigate road systems because complicated roads with lots of sudden bends and one-way streets unsettle me and particularly if car parking is difficult to find.
Solution? Probably me to suck it up rather than rebuild Newcastle in Co. Down. 
Although I have never been to that town, I appreciate that some changes can never be made. 
And that is okay because I am reasonable and I understand that in the attempt to accommodate my needs, we need to be aware of others too and that includes those who are not autistic as well.

So lets not be silly and describe a town as 'autism-friendly' because its nonsensical however noble the goal and great the achievements that are made. Just remember to always include autistic people in this project (to be fair, I haven't ascertained if this has been). 

Autistic and facing redundancy

I was going through a bit of a difficult situation earlier in the year: I was facing the threat of redundancy. Fortunately, I was redeployed into an alternative role which so far seems to be going well. However, there was a time of great anxiety and uncertainty.

Of course, there is always the concern about having a lack of money but that's not something I want to address as its pretty much universal to most people in some form. I am thinking about redundancy for those who are autistic.

I work for a large organisation and I would like to think that they generally do try to play fair but are sometimes faced with tough choices. I don't think they are the kind of employers who deliberately and callously screw people over. No one is perfect and some business decisions can be cutthroat but it is not the place that's in and out of employment tribunals.
The redundancies are not about willfully hurting anyone but based on business. I realise it can feel personal but a decent and legally-sound employer should approach redundancy as removing posts, not people, whilst keeping a sense of humanity too.

Sometimes making people redundant is a good thing, at least for the organisation to stay financially stable. Of course, it isn't for the employees involved sometimes if they have no other employment to go to but it can be financially and/or structurally necessary for the organisation. I am objective enough to appreciate that cuts have to be made sometimes when times are difficult and rationalisation of the staff are needed to protect the future of an organisation. No employer, public sector or otherwise, can operate indefinitely with financial difficulties.

But for autistic people, redundancy can be particularly harsh and I will address why I think this is so. A favourite statistic of mine comes from The National Autistic Society (NAS) where they ascertained that in the UK 16% of autistic adults are in full-time paid employment and 32% in some kind of paid work (NAS, 2016).

We can take from that statistic that autistic people are underrepresented in the workplace. There's still a lot to be fixed to get those percentages up so when an autistic person gets that dream job and is happy, motivated and doing well, its a crushing blow to find oneself on the receiving end of a redundancy notice. It's not just about losing one's source of income but losing so much more. 

Whilst I was thinking about my financial side, I was concerned about losing my routine and my social circle. It was a seriously big worry that if I had no job, I would essentially lose my purpose in life. 
I find that an often asked question in small-talk is, "what do you do?". It feels like my whole self-worth is connected with how I fill my week. And it's got to be something of use when I answer that question. It's no good saying that I lay in bed to lunchtime and then watch a bit of telly. 
No job? One answers by referring to the last job.
Now retired? What did you used to do?
A mother bringing up children? What did you do before kids?
It never ceases to amaze me how much value is placed on one's economic contribution to the economy in trivial conversation. 

Without my job, my identity fades and so does my schedule. I have my little system and all my days are mapped out with what I am doing and it is all nicely timetabled. I feel secure and comforted by my daily structures. Take it away and I have to start all again and make new routines. That amount of adjustment is hard. Real hard. 

But it's more than routines as I also lose my social connections. People always say, "keep in touch" when someone leaves a place of work. It rarely lasts. It is never the same and being the one now outside of the organisation, people can drift apart. I find making friends through work beneficial because it gives a structure in which to form the friendships. Employment gives us a reason to converse. 
I think too that some social connections only exist in a vacuum. Move it from the office and into the pub and it doesn't function so well. Conversations that were once centred on moaning about Terry from Accounts or that damn printer that keeps jamming no longer have any meaning and ceases to be relevant. We would have to find ourselves that 'out of the workplace' identity to rely upon or hark back to the 'good old days'. It's all very challenging and I don't particularly have the energy, more so if my chums are still employed. It begins to feel a little bit too raw as the gap between us widens.

When I have been out of work, I have found the lack of external forces to get me going to be a huge problem. Why bother to get out of bed? Why not just sleep and let the horrors of unemployment wash over me? The stress of being thrown on the scrap heap makes my tolerance to sensory overload very poor and the last thing I am fit for is being dynamic and engaging in a job interview. Everything irritates me and I want to hide up so that I don't become so self-destructive and yet the hiding up is self-destructive too as I am not trying to get myself out of a rut. My enthusiasm for job hunting diminishes as time goes on. It can become quite the damaging cycle.

Some years ago I went through long-term unemployment. It did my mental health no good at all. As time ticked on, I was losing my motivation and just giving up, embracing my fate of being nothing because I couldn't handle change and I made my own safety in the comfort of my bed. I had no structure, no drive and no purpose and it wasn't a good place. I was scared about my situation but scared too, to change it. I was worried that I would end up in a job with unpleasant colleagues with work that was either too hard or incredibly unfulfilling. I was scared by so much upheaval and I picked up negative habits of not getting dressed until lunchtime. It went on a while and I wasn't getting far with finding the right job. Whilst I managed getting plenty of interviews, the rejection hit me hard. 

One day I decided to make a bold move during one moment of courage. I applied for teacher training. I am not suggesting becoming a teacher is the answer to all autistic people's unemployment problems but it helped me get my routine back. I had a purpose again and my beloved structure. I felt that the longer one is unemployed, the harder everything is to get back into work and this isn't something that's purely a problem for autistic people. However, if you know that would be the case, I suggest have plans made ahead. Think contingency plan. So before one gets to that point where all hope is lost, find that something that puts some routine back because that's what starts to add purpose to the day. It helps push the darkness away. Structure made it easier for me to cope with the changes in my life that I couldn't control.

So I figured I would think of some things one can do to create a routine:
  • Do a college course (yes, I know some aren't free).
  • Volunteer somewhere.
  • Join a club.
  • Go see a friend/family member regularly to have things to do on set days.
  • Do the food shopping early in the morning so there's a need to get up. Go buy some food cheap and cook something amazing.
It doesn't necessarily have to be anything that costs. It's the getting out of bed at a good time and fitting in an activity that could form part of the new routine that's important. Going for a walk may be enough. 

There are so many other things that we can do but we have to be proactive to establish that new structure for our days before that depression hits. Get that routine back by creating a new one. Find a purpose to get up and job hunting will become easier. This was it helps guard against self-pity makes job hunting all the more futile. 

I know it's scary. I've faced redundancy a number of times but each one terrifies me a little less because I have in my mind a backup plan. In my case, it's education as my fallback for purpose, structure and stability, although I appreciate that everyone has differing financial limitations. Here, my tolerances to life are better and I am less likely to give up on meaningful job searching as my week is filled with positivity. 

Well, this is what I am telling myself if another redundancy happens. I realise it's not going to solve every problem by keeping myself occurred, such as by making inexpensive soups or tending to the garden. It's about finding that little stable thing to cling onto when so much has been taken away. It's about finding strategies to right yourself when there's no one else to assist. 

We know that this isn't the solution to all our problems. I realise too that this doesn't make the actual workplaces kinder places for autistic people but it is about establishing small areas of control in one's life. Raise the tolerance to all that sensory overload and heartache and use it as a breather to be more effective in light job hunting.  should, I hope, shorten the time out of employment. 

I know job hunting can be a particularly difficult thing to face as an autistic person, that's not even addressing the minefield of interview techniques. It's not only about being chosen as the right candidate for a job but for the job hunter to feel comfortable in that work environment and culture. It's why when an autistic person loses their job, it can be in many cases a tragic situation because they might well take longer to find an organisation in which they really fit. Of course, there are exceptions. 

No wonder autistic people are underrepresented in the workplace but I believe that some of us are able to mitigate some lose of routine. If you can do that, I urge you to; it may shorten that period of unemployment. 

Sunday, 21 May 2017

Symbolising disability for autistic people

I've seen various comments on Twitter, website articles and even petitions against the use of the wheelchair as a symbol of disability. This is the symbol:

Symbol of disability

I get their logic. 
There's been attempts to make the symbol more progressive and reflect that disabled people are capable mobile people:

But not everyone who is disabled requires the continuous use of a wheelchair or indeed at all.

In the UK, disability is defined as someone who has substantial and long-term physical or mental impairments that impact normal day to day activities. Certainly that doesn't mean that anyone who meets this definition found in the UK Equality Act 2010 requires a wheelchair.

I'm autistic and my cognitive profile certainly has no impact on my mobility.

So the argument goes that the wheelchair logo is outdated because many disabilities are invisible and the logo does not capture this. This can be a problem for disabled people who are perceived to not require certain facilities such as a disabled toilet because they do not appear to be disabled from a casual uninformed glance. Both logos fosters the view that to be disabled one requires the need of a wheelchair. I would suggest that the media drive in some parts to create suspicions in the public of those people claiming to be disabled hasn't helped.

It seems like one cannot use a disabled car parking space without someone checking to see if the user is either using a wheelchair or crawling on hands and knees as if a limb is unusable. Any hint of fitness or good health casts concerns that the person is abusing the benefit system to avoid work. Whilst there are cheats in the system, the attitude that one's disabilities must be obvious to require certain facilities is narrow-minded and outdated. Disabled people can have a difficult enough time without being scrutinised by ignorant factions of the general public. Such unwanted aggression can put many off from even leaving the house. 

I don't personally require the use of disabled parking spaces or disabled toilets but I do understand that it is mortifying to be judged by people when one uses disabled facilities if the disability is not visible. There are stories of abusive notes being left on people's cars, which is a huge knock to one's self confidence, which is often already low. The change of logo would symbolise a inclusive acknowledgement of all disabilities.

I can appreciate that the use of such adaptive facilities are not always about mobility. A carer might not physically fit into a standard toilet cubicle to administer the care a person needs. The disabled toilet gives that additional space. An autistic person may be easily spooked by a shopping experience and their carer needs to shepherd them into the shop quickly. Close proximity to the shop might limit the possibility of the disabled person running off. There's so many different reasons that go beyond simply walking.

However I can see too that some autistic people who take things literally might have a strong aversion to using a disabled toilet as they may not feel the toilet is aimed at them. I can see that for those that require the facility but do not recognise their entitlement to it because if their interpretation of the logo may be challenging for the carer. But there will be autistic people who don't need carers but find going out overwhelming. All that chatter in a ladies toilet, coupled with bright lights, queuing, toilets flushing and hand driers can be intolerable. A disabled toilet limits that level of stimulation. Yet for high functioning autistic people, I know for me, I don't see myself as disabled to the degree where I want to use disabled toilets. Sometimes I am happy with the general ones, particularly when they are quiet. It hinges on my tolerance levels.

But I have issue with those who want to change the disability logo.

Whilst I think a better logo would be a great idea, the key is to what?
The point is that everyone knows the current symbol regardless of where we are in the world. If we start to create a new more inclusive one, that level of recognition will be gone and it is going to take a long time to get that up to the success of the current symbol. I also struggle with what could replace it that would not only be inclusive of all disabilities, be international in the sense of no words included and not be so abstract that it becomes meaningless.

If anyone has a suggestion of a better symbol, I am all eyes. I will happily take a look but I think the problem is not the symbol but the understanding in which as a society we fix to it. Our world is full of symbols. When I save a document in Microsoft Word, I am clicking on a picture of a floppy disk but I have no floppy disk in my computer. I don't believe that I am limited to saving to only that 1.44MB medium. What we need is education to teach people that disability is more about a person who is in a wheelchair and static, relying on others to move them about. I wouldn't like to jump too heavily into the alternative wheelchair symbol discussion because I am not a user of a wheelchair but from my viewpoint, the new symbol made me think of someone who is into wheelchair racing. I am not sure that is a helpful either because obviously there are many users of wheelchairs who aren't going to be into that sport or indeed capable of it.

I believe rather than getting too heavily fixated on the symbol itself because designing a better symbol is incredibly problematic, we need to be focusing on widening the definition of disabilities so that disability isn't synonymous with needing a wheelchair. To do so, that starts with education.

Tuesday, 28 March 2017

World Autism Awareness Week: how often those spreading 'awareness' forget the high intellectually functioning adult.

So its apparently it is World Autism Awareness Week this week.

Here's a link to the National Autistic Society's web pages on this:

But I have a bit of a problem with it because once again I feel somewhat marginalised from what should be my "little special needs community" (or should it!?). The NAS covers lots of stuff about fundraising for them on the above linked website and I am sure they do a sterling job for those who really need support services and the like but I feel that here in the UK I fly under the radar because I am not "bad enough".

But people like me? The people with a diagnosis who can live independently, have a job, a family and been to university? Where do we turn to? I don't feel like there is much room for people like me in the NAS. I would love to hear from people who have benefited from the NAS, particularly those who are similar to me that might be able to change my somewhat jaded view. But in my case its like the title of this blog says:
"Not autistic enough; too weird to be neuro-typical."

I often feel like I am falling between the cracks as my differences and struggles can be subtle and I am able to control some of my meltdowns or at least delay them, although to the detriment of my mental health and triggering migraines. I have a significant awareness of my functioning and have identified strategies to compensate for a lot of my disadvantages. As such, I will avoid things that upset me so that I can maintain a sense of well-being. It almost is insulting to "real disabled" people to call myself disabled and yet there are so many times when I don't understand something and I am on the peripheral looking in and confused. Whilst I don't feel disabled, my autism shapes my life in such a way that the difficulties I face are long-term, substantial and neither trivial or minor. It impacts on my life choices, my confidence, what I can do in life and what I don't. Yet because I don't feel pain that is so unmanageable or problems accessing buildings and services in the way that wheelchair users might, I don't regard myself quite in the same way as those who do face that. As a result, I see myself less as disabled and more as just unfortunate and that's how life is. Few people are exempt from life's obstacles in some capacity and I don't feel that I have some special case over other people.

Yet too because I can get on with life mostly okay, although at times its hard and I constrain what I do so I can manage life reasonably well, it feels like I don't have any real needs given my ability to largely get on with it. I wonder how important it is to raise awareness of my 'plight' when there are so many people much worse off than me?!? I struggle with the notion that I should be entitled to support and yet I know there are times that I need it and I know too that a greater awareness is needed for people like myself so we don't get forgotten about, particularly in the more complex parts of life involving employment and relationships.

Its awareness weeks like these where I don't know if the NAS truly represent the intellectually high functioning adults as much as the lower functioning children that require significant social care.
And lets be totally blunt - those who are intellectually low functioning, perhaps with comorbidities too, will probably never face the stress of driving to a new place and finding somewhere to park or worrying about a job promotion. But then I have never had any problems with only requiring food that is of one texture or one colour and having to eat from my favourite bowl.

I am desperately trying not to be ableist because I understand that my experiences of autism will fit on a Venn diagram alongside those autistic people with their unique manifestations of it. Some of what I go through and those with 'mild autism' will not experience what those with care needs might but somewhere we will overlap in our experiences even if how we understand it and react to it will be different. And of course we don't all experience the same systemising or empathising styles, have the same sensory processing or how our brains focus on the small details over the wider picture therefore variations are certain.

But here's the thing - I am not sure the autism community, whoever they are and if they exist, really put enough focus on those higher functioning autistic individuals. Whilst there is a nod to employment support, it doesn't seem like it goes far enough. I don't need support to tell me that small talk can involve the weather or about how I should be using my own mug in the office (See here for an example: And I do appreciate for some it will be extremely useful but for many of us who are graduates and have experience in the workplace, we need the kinds of help tailored to our level of academic and vocational ability and being able to potentially navigate professional level careers. Being told to turn to our university's career guidance is not good enough and often it is only available for a limited time after graduation.

Until the big autism charities devote more time to our very specific needs and not make it all about children and the autistic people who may require much more daily support and see our needs as important, how are we ever going to bring awareness to the wider world about higher functioning autistic people when the focus is on the lower functioning less able (but still very worthy) autistic people?

During World Autism Awareness Week perhaps some of the autism charities need to familiarise themselves about how wide-ranging autism is and not forget some of our autistic counterparts are lost in the sea that is filled with support geared at children, neuro-typical parents and those people requiring and receiving social care because we are just 'mildly autistic' and seem to get by.
I want my life to be more than just about getting by and falling from one crisis to the next.

Saturday, 18 March 2017

Autism only applies to children

"It's Asperger's and Autism Awareness month! In honor of all children who struggle every day!!"

Every now and again I see similar things appear on my Facebook newsfeed from well-intentioned people trying to 'raise awareness' of the suffering that autistic children face. Inevitably with World Autism Awareness Week (27th March - 2nd April 2017) coming up, I expect to see more of those kinds of social media posts. 

There's a few things that irritate:

Firstly they claim to raise awareness and provide no education, no quick facts or anything that we can learn. If you want to raise awareness, actually provide some meaningful and useful content might be a starting point, yes?! When is Asperger's and Autism Awareness month anyway?!

This notion of universal daily struggling or suffering kinda grates on me. Actually some days as an autistic person I couldn't actually say I struggle. I've had issues all my life but I am not sure if it's just manageable (ish!) because this is all I have known or if in the grand scheme of things, I am generally okay? I avoid stuff that upsets me and that's my coping mechanism. I know certain social activities and career paths would upset me so I don't do it. Simple, right?!
Okay, I get sensory overload and yes it's unpleasant but it's not constantly upsetting me. I am one of the fortunate ones who can generally extract myself from situations before they get to the point of a meltdown. I realise too that not all autistic people can do that and perhaps I am on the end of the scale where I have fewer undesirable autism related aspects about myself than many others.
Autism doesn't impact on my mobility either so I think myself lucky that I can do lots of things for myself. 
When I think of suffering, I think of someone with chronic pain and challenges that impact their lives so greatly that a large chunk of it is utterly miserable. Maybe I am an ablest amongst the autistic demographic but I have never put myself in a category of where I feel I suffer daily. I won't apologise for that either. My lens is how I view the world and I can't pretend to fully know or understand everyone's view but I can try (despite supposedly autistic people being void of empathy - yeah, right!). Sure, life can be struggle at times but autistic people don't have a monopoly on that. 

The whole "in honour of" thing...
Are autistic people in need of celebrating or having our challenges, differences and similarities respected via a little Facebook post? We didn't pick to be like this. We didn't earn this cognitive style. It makes as much sense to me as celebrating people with blue eyes. 
WELL DONE all you lot with the eyes the colour of the sky. You worked so hard just being yourself. 
This is how we are and I think most of us, like the rest of the planet, generally get on with it the best we can?! 
It's all a bit patronising for me.

There is some notion that within these copy and paste crap that autistic adults are off the radar. 
Do only autistic children count? Now you're 18, the Facebook concerned no longer bother about us. Or maybe they think we have a terminal disease called autism whereby we don't actually reach adulthood. Incidentally, I am exceeding all lifespan predictions being in my 30s... Or perhaps one of my autism super powers is cheating death by using complex mathematics?!
Hmmmm or maybe by the time one leaves childhood, we have magically grown out of our cognitive style and become fully signed up members of the "Normal Club"?! Here we have lost our sense of systemising, become extremely empathic and gained wonderful social skills to become an artful host within high society. 
Or more likely, we just get on with it. We perfect our coping mechanisms in time, we learn how to pretend we're okay, understand more about ourselves to avoid things in life that upset us and perhaps care a little less about what others think. It's not that we have cognitively changed in our essence but many intellectually higher functioning autistic people probably have adapted from where they were in early childhood.

So when I see such Facebook posts, don't be surprised if I remind the person about the existence of autistic adults. It's not to be pedantic (ok, yes a touch!) but because it's attitudes like that which reinforce the view that only those in education and young people are entitled to autism related support. This is because I often feel like the existence of autistic adults is denied unless they have comorbidities and require social care and institutionalisation. Us autistics who seem okay on the surface are often forgotten. Time and time again, I think back to my experiences of working in education and my life and seeing support in schools and colleges but it almost disappears overnight once one has left their educational institution.

So please, let's not make sweeping statements that do nothing to help anyone, spread generalisations and misinformation but also ignore a sizeable demographic with autism. I'm not sure we need your kind of sympathy...

Now, if you like, you can return to your fake news, click bait websites and videos of extremely daft people doing very daft things!